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What Love Is

By Scott and Colleen Westerman
Love is being 16, realizing that there is a 5 year age difference between the two of you, and building a relationship anyway. A relationship is just as strong and steadfast 35 years later as it was when you first realized you were in love.

Love is a sharing a circle of close friends who are generous, faithful and attentive.

Love is deciding that raising a healthy family came before career aspirations and discovering that by doing so, both of your careers became more rewarding than you could have ever realized.

Love is carrying your tears on one another’s shoulders and laughing so hard together that your nose runs.

Love is beginning and ending every day by saying, “I love you, no matter what.” Even when you are royally pissed off.

Love is sending your baby daughter, who is just learning how to mimic everything you say, into daddy’s home office to tell him to “eat my shorts”, followed by daddy sending her right back to tell you, “daddy says you are a booger.”

Love is listening to your 3 year old son sing “Away in a Manger”.

Love is being broke, but feeling rich when the two of you tuck your kids into bed every night.

Love is tickling one another until someone says, “stop please”.

Love is sitting next to one another and holding hands at every concert, play and assembly your kids ever had.

Love is letting your wife taunt the ref and being willing to risk your son’s team getting a technical foul in the process.

Love is letting your husband fly every kind of airplane and go skydiving with the Army Golden Knights even though you know if something goes wrong the life insurance won’t pay out.

Love is standing together to demand the best education and best health care for your family, even if it means working two jobs.

Love is the four of you drinking lots and lots of root beer and then recording your own rendition of Alfred E. Newman’s “It’s a Gas!”

Love is seeing your wife find a career passion and watching her revel in it.

Love is watching your husband inspire his team to rediscover their self esteem and rise to the top.

Love is being side by side, watching your children graduate and get married.

Love is living in 13 houses over 3 decades and making each one a home.

Love is preserving date night every single week and never forgetting to do the things you did to win your spouse in the first place.

Love is discovering you have cancer and telling your husband to start his new job anyway.

Love is thinking that your wife is just as beautiful when the chemo makes all her hair fall out.

Love is realizing what “In sickness and in health” really means and sticking around.

Love is adopting amazing kids who aren’t your biological children, and teaching them what love is by your example.

Love is your combined sigh of relief when you are told that you are in remission.

Love is being present when your grandchild is born and seeing your spouse’s face in their smile.

Love is being told your cancer is back and believing that the two of you can beat it again, together.

Love is a lifetime of shared experiences that continually redefines what love is.

Love is deciding that whatever cards fate deals, you will live your days to the fullest, as two individual souls who have have always believed that life has been a much better ride because you loved one another.

Comments ( 10 )
  1. Jennifer Decker May 12th, 2012 @ 21:32 | #-49

    Beautiful. The true meaning of ‘What Love Is’ indeed. How blessed you are to truly love each other after 35 years!

  2. Kim Kittleman May 12th, 2012 @ 22:44 | #-48

    What a gift and blessing. To love and be loved like this.

  3. Norianne Wright May 13th, 2012 @ 08:22 | #-47

    I pray that we have your kind of love after 35 years. Those words are beyond beautiful. You both are in my thoughts and prayers.

  4. Denise Busley May 13th, 2012 @ 08:29 | #-46

    …and Love heals. Thank you for your beautiful words and living with such Love in your life. It makes the Universe a better place.

  5. Becky Sanborn Esch May 13th, 2012 @ 08:53 | #-45

    What beautiful and heartfelt words. Please wish your beautiful wife a “Happy Mother’s Day” and know that healing prayers are being said. My family has green and white blood as well (my dad graduated in the ’50’s and my brother in the ’80’s and I have a niece and nephew who are current Spartans) – there is no stopping a “Spartans’ Will”.

  6. Marcia Redlaczyk May 13th, 2012 @ 10:09 | #-44

    I can’t stop crying!!! Wow! Wow! and Wow!!! xoxox

  7. Kip Bohne May 13th, 2012 @ 14:08 | #-43

    What a blessing you are to each other and to so many lives you’ve touched along the way.

  8. Ilaine May 14th, 2012 @ 15:38 | #-42

    Wow, you both have such a great love that it was expressed in this blog. Note to self ” Grab a tissue before you read another post like this” Hugs & Kisses

  9. Ashleigh May 15th, 2012 @ 12:53 | #-41

    Thank you for writing this Scott and Colleen. What a wonderful post to read as Terry and I prepare for our wedding. You set an incredible example for young couples. Best wishes for you both and hope to see you this summer in Michigan.

  10. Chris May 15th, 2012 @ 16:05 | #-40

    I was going to write a comment, but then realized Ashleigh said everything I was thinking – and wrote it in a much more eloquent way than I would. Colleen – I haven’t met you (yet) but I hear wonderful (and I mean WONDERFUL) things about you. I’m thinking about you both as you take on this new challenge together. Thanks for setting a wonderful example for young couples like me and my wife.

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